Attract the Love of Your Life

Have you heard about the technique Olympic athletes use to help them win gold medals?

In addition to conventional practice, they do some critical mental work as well. They close their eyes and “see” themselves making the winning basket, being first across the finish line, etc. They “feel” the weight of the medal as it’s draped over their necks. They “hear” the roar of the crowd.

What does this have to do with you attracting a good, fun, and faithful man or woman to spend the rest of your life with?

Everything.

You can use this technique, too, to attract a relationship with a man or woman who possesses the qualities you desire.

Here’s how to do it:

1) Decide what qualities you desire most in a husband or wife

2) Write them down

3) Construct a scene on paper between you and this person using as much sensory detail (touch, taste, smell, sight, hearing) as you can. (Make sure you write the scene in past tense! This is critical!).

Read it out loud three times a day, preferably before your feet touch the floor in the morning, at lunch, and just before you drop off to sleep at night.

Visualize it whenever you have a free moment (while you’re on hold, waiting on line at the bank, stuck in traffic, etc.).

As you continue to do this exercise, you will notice that new details will seemingly pop into your scene from nowhere. That’s a good sign.

Keep it up.

Before long, you will attract available people with the qualities you desire. What’s more, you will be attracted to them, too. Getting dates will become effortless and maintaining a relationship with “the right one” will be blessedly free of angst and drama.

How can I be so sure of this? Well, I used this technique, and it worked for me. After years of disastrous relationships, I attracted and married the man of my dreams. Twelve years later, we’re still in love and having fun together.

Go for it!

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The Theory of Scarcity in Dating

Familiar with the economics theory of scarcity ? Here’s a simple way to illustrate the theory; basically this theory says that if the supply of a certain commodity or goods is more than its demand, then the price of the commodity is bound to drop. On the other hand, the reverse is true if the demand is more than supply. Now, you must be wondering what has all this got to do with dating. Actually it has everything to do with dating…

Still clueless? Here goes! Let’s assume that you are at the point where you’ve just started seeing a girl, went out for a couple of dates and you’ve pretty much concluded that she is worth pursuing. This is the point where the theory of scarcity kicks in. Once you start courting, you need to make yourself SCARCE! The most effective way to make a woman bolt for the nearest exit is to start acting like a leech.

The key to being successful in dating, dude; is to maintain attraction in the chasing game. Throw in enough bait to lure the catch then pull back before the bait catches. Create an aura of mystery… Women love mysteries and romance… No kidding! Women always longed to be swept off their feet by their knight in shining armor and ride off with him into the sunset. That’s the reason why books by writers like Barbara Cartland, Danielle Steele and Barbara Taylor Bradford sells so well!

They appeal to the inner voice of a woman. Similarly, you need to be attuned to a woman’s needs and wants to be successful with women. Now, first and foremost you need to remember the golden rule; NEVER act like a wuss or needy around a woman, nothing is a bigger turn off than that! Believe me! And that pretty much explains the need for you to make yourself scarce when you are courting.

If you call her 3 – 4 times a day, don’t! Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself, what is the first thing that comes to mind if you are getting calls every 4-5 hours. The few probable answers are; it’s either you have no social life, too free or you are DESPARATE! None of it is good for your image and you certainly don’t want to be identified as such…

So, do yourself a favour, appear busy to her even if you have absolutely nothing to do. Every time your hand reaches for the phone, stop yourself and don’t screw things up by being over eager! On the contrary, remind yourself that if you do not call frequently, she will think that you have a life besides her and that makes you desirable! By appearing busy you are also implying that you are a career oriented and confident man. A career man equates dependable!

Therefore exercise caution when you are at the start of a new relationship. Too much too soon and you’ll turn the table against you but play your cards right and you got a winner!

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Is Somebody Interested In You?

How can you tell if a somebody is interested in you?

I am asking you this because if you wish to any control of your dating life, your personal life, and even your business life. You should know how to read people.

I’ve read plenty of articles and worked with plenty of students. They have come up with things such as she is touching her hair. She smiles and her eyes just seem to set on you if we are talking about dating.

The biggest problem with the above question is that you are looking for something to justify you. The greatest strength comes from within. When you learn to believe in yourself in a truly deep level you won’t care who is interested in you. Your thoughts and beliefs will be so powerful that about 90% of the population will be interested in you just because your thoughts are so powerful.

Thoughts of “Is he/she interested in me? ”

Are thoughts of doubt, fear and a lack of self confidence. Well if you think these thoughts the person you are interested in will begin to also think thoughts of Doubt, fear and have a lack of self confidence.

Who wants to feel those feelings?

Yet think about this for a few minutes.

When was the last time you were around somebody who is really, confident, powerful, believed in themselves, comfortable in life , fun, and playful. Noticed how you feel around this person.

If their feelings are stronger than yours, you tend to feel confident, powerful, believe in yourself, your comfortable in life, find things fun and playful. Not a bad way to feel huh?

Now think about a time you were around somebody who was really depressed. They think the world is against them, a lot of things are on their mind, they never have any fun and just hate life.

Noticed how you feel when you are around somebody like that? Their negative state can actually pull you down.

Knowing this which type of person would you rather be around?

Now also thinking about the above two types of people? Who do you think you best represent?

Are you fun, playful, have a zest for life, confident, powerful and believe in yourself?

Or are you somebody who is negative, really depressed? Thinks the world is against them.

You can control your emotions with a little bit of work.

Now say you are on a date. If you are feeling unsure of yourself, and you have lots of doubt. Guess what your date picks up about your emotions. The majority of times he/she will not want to go out with you again.

Now if you were on that same date and felt confident, believed in yourself, and were having fun. How do you think your date would feel about you?

Learn to generate the positive feelings first, instead of worrying what somebody else is feeling.

You can look at somebody and find 10 reasons with their body language that say they like you in just a few minutes or you can look at somebody and find 10 reasons to see that they do not like you.

All you have to do is notice one or 2 reasons for a person to like you and believe in them. If you can believe in these reasons your spirits will pick up and soon more and more signals will be generated about somebody liking you.

Guess what though? Who is truly generating those feeling? You or the person you are with?

This applies to everything in life, not just dating.

You are the person generating the feelings. As you are leading with your emotions. The true answer lies within you, not from outside.

Let’s take a few examples.

Say a guy in a coffee shop sees a beautiful girl and wants to get to know her better.

He goes up to her and she tells him, ” hey leave me alone. I’m busy studying.”

Now the guy can have a lot of thoughts and responses based on what she said.

He can interpret this in a lot of ways. The leave me alone , I’m busy studying.

He can take it as she is busy and is indifferent about me.

He could take it as she doesn’t find me attractive and I don’t have any chance with her.

Or he could take it as …..she likes me A LOT. In fact she likes me so much she is trying to not show any interest. Isn’t that cute? She is trying to play hard to get.

All 3 situations could happen with her response. The thing that really matters is how he interprets it. If he is looking for any type of approval. She will feel this” need for approval “and find it repulsive as she will then also feel “this need for approval when around him”.

Who wants to feel that way?

The indifferent is just that indifferent. She is neutral. She doesn’t know ANYTHING about him. Her mind is on her studies. He would have to get her attention first, than get some interest, before she can make a real decision about him.

Than the 3rd and what I find to be the most useful example. She loves him so much she doesn’t want to appear too eager.

Now this might be the case or it might not be. The key is does he believe it to be. If he does and plays with it. She will pick up his feelings of confidence, self assurance, playfulness, and his ability to be comfortable in any situation.

A persons actions will happen based on how they imterpret the situation.

This is a big piece of the puzzle we teach at Fidentia. Learn to interpret everything that happens as something that will benefit you. Believe in yourself and others will too.

Robert Torrey is one of the instructors for Fidentia. A company that teaches dating confidence to others. Go to http://www.attractanddate.com for more info and to subscribe to their free newsletter.

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Dating Tool: Confidence 101

I’m over it. “There’s plenty of fish in the sea,” they say. Well, apparently I have been using the wrong bait. Nobody said dating would be easy, but Hollywood sure likes to paint it that way, doesn’t it? “There’s someone for everyone,” they say. Maybe that ought to translate to, “There’s someone for everyone….as long as you’re a muscled pretty boy with washboard abs, and at least 6 feet tall.”

So how does one get by this unsettling dating stipulation? Are we actually to believe that love will find us when we’re not looking? I think people who say that are normally in happy relationships when they say it. Can we “buy” outer beauty from an online store to match our own inner beauty? Somebody is buying pheromones and weight-loss pills and liposuction and facial restructuring. Hell, now people even get plastic surgery to make them look like a celebrity. Huh??? And you know what? I bet these things work for people. As long as it can build the confidence up in someone, it also strengthens the attraction. So how can we build up that confidence without spending tons of money to people who know how the game works? Sounds like a question for the shrink.

I suppose its all part of why I started up a matchmaking service with a friend of mine in Los Angeles. It can be so frustrating out there. And being “alone” can only make your work day more stressful, it seems. So if I had someone to do the dirty work for me….get me the dating connections, counsel me on why I might not be getting that second date, maybe my frustration level would decrease. So I went into the business….pretty much as a means to find out what can be done to find the perfect one.

OK, so nobody’s perfect, but at least maybe I can find a decent one who happens to have similar ethics as myself. Oh, and a killer sense of humour is mandatory. But looking around, nobody was going to help me, a fact that made me feel even more alone! So I had to do it myself. Such is life, right? Part of it might be that I feel a need to always be in control of my own destiny. As long as I am actively pursuing something, I am a success. Yea, that sounds right! So I joined forced with my cohort and we started Let’s Meet Here. Now I’m gonna’ find the one, right?

Wrong!

As it seems unethical to date my own clients (damn, I knew I’d run into some roadblock!), I figured….at least pass on any information I can gather to those who need it (and baby, we all need it!). Granted, I am learning about all this stuff now. It seems every date and every relationship is completely unique. There is no list of do’s and don’ts that applies. But I do know that going into the business has allowed me an increase in confidence that is apparent in me without my even having to think about it. I am starting to really believe that success comes from the active pursuit of a goal, whether or not the goal is achieved. The process in itself builds character…and character is attractive.

So while I learn as I go, I will show as I go too. It is absolutely within my own power to be a success. And the pursuit of achievements is an achievement of its own. However, I have also learned that a little is never enough. And to settle after one’s success is no success at all. Maybe now I’m fishing with the right bait!

Kerr S. Lordygan a professional matchmaker and business advisor, is a Relationship Director for Let’s Meet Here LLC. His efforts on behalf of relationship-minded people include numerous positive testimonials, including praise from a recently married couple first introduced through Kerr’s guidance. An accomplished musician and formally trained playwright, Kerr is a veteran stage producer and featured artist at venues in Japan and Scotland. A graduate of the University of Southern California, Kerr is also a regularly published theater critic for several entertainment magazines. He lives in Los Angeles. www.lets-meet-here.com [http://www.lets-meet-here.com]

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How To Make A Lasting Impression

How many times have you felt the urge to impress a girl you’ve just met ? I’m talking about the kind of burning need that you feel, the compulsive urge that tells your brain that you’ve got to impress this girl at any cost; the kind of impression that leaves your imprint in her mind. Catch my drift ???

For starters, you’ve got to be well groomed; appearance plays an important role in the formation of first impression. Your appearance is the first perception that anyone has of you, so, your clothes speak for you to a certain degree.

Ponder on this: How many times has a well dressed lady caught your eye when you are out walking in the streets? Well, you don’t have a clue about the lady and YET she caught your eye… so, what she is wearing is the thing that is doing the communication here… It is all the better if you come packaged with good looks and a great body but let’s get real, not many men are blessed with that so; suffice to say that well groom is the way to go.

Once that is settled, you got to work on perfecting the art of small talk. Small talk creates a window of opportunity for you to make a lasting impression with the person you are talking to. The one thing that you need to bear in mind is to stay clear from the typical senseless drivel. Strive instead to be an interesting conversationalist. A good way to start would be to scan the newspaper headline everyday; newspaper headlines always make good conversation starters.

Project yourself as an interesting conversationalist by choosing topics of interest. These topics can range from current events to an upcoming movie or concert. Take note that an upcoming movie or concert would make an excellent prelude to asking for a date.

It would be great if you have a story to tell that relates to the conversation on hand. Telling a story not only creates association; it also piques her interest in you and subconsciously this association (you + the story and conversation at hand) is being filed into her memory subconsciously. As such, when she comes across the same situation or object again in the near future, she would be instantly reminded of you. Now that is the kind of impression you’d like to leave a girl with.

It gets better if you can make her laugh… It’ll put you on good terms with her and she’s definitely more likely to remember you when you make her laugh. Laughter also makes her more relax and comfortable around you as laughing releases the feel good hormone. So, go on out there, tickle her funny bone and you are more likely to walk away with her number and chances are she’ll remember you when you call.

All said and done, you still have to come across as being comfortable with yourself when you are doing all these. Don’t fake it ! Women can detect it… As long as you are yourself and not pretending to be someone you are not, with a little humor, a dose of sensitivity and a lot of confidence you’ll definitely go places with her !!!

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